Some people are trapped in time, although time waits for no man. Recently I’ve learned that love is a choice, not a feeling, and after passing through the stages of enchantment we decide whether we are willing to provide kindness, patience, selflessness, protection, hope and most importantly, security. The one God provides to you will become a Helpmate, not a clutch – all of which I didn’t know before. Thanks to wisdom, I understand now. True love is a transformation within us. It’s knowing our worth and understanding the divine plan assigned to us. It’s being willing to be beaten, spat at, humiliated all while carrying a cross to your death. Here, I ask you: are you willing to die for love, how big is your cross?