Relationships..

We all know that throughout the year a relationship may mature or what we call “fall out”.

Each season brings forth a new growth sprout  in relationships.

Spring – In the spring of a relationship, we experience the thrill of discovery, obsession, and emotional (and often, physical) penetration that precedes new growth and attachments. Springtime offers a mad rush of delightful sensations. Remember what it feels like to touch someone for the first time? The easy laughter when you got tangled in your own shirt?

Most of us are good at dealing with springtime in our relationships. We forget our past unhappiness and revel in rediscovered emotions. Springtime is easy.

Summer – In the summertime, we get into the nitty gritty of growing a relationship. We might have a few dry spells (you know what I’m talking about) and some scorching hot days (unless you’re both the silent types) but the majority of time is spent fostering real growth in the relationship. The first days of summer are much like those of a regular season. We rejoice in the rapid growth of the relationship and delight in continual discoveries as conversation runs deeper.

Summer isn’t all fun though. As the days wear on, we begin to realize the–sometimes crippling–truth that Summer never lasts forever. Do you remember the first time you realized you offended your partner but decided it wasn’t worth bringing up to apologize for? That was the last day of summer in your relationship.

Autumn – After the last day of summer, a relationship grows colder with each passing day. For those with intense personalities and a low tolerance for conflict, spring and summer may take just a few months and autumn signals the end of the relationship. For those who handle conflict with more aplomb or are simply able to tolerate more pain, autumn is just the next step in a relationship cycle stereotyped to always end with icy fingers.

This is the time when the tendency to “pick battles” crops up most often (I’ve watched myself do this many times). When confronted with inconsiderate behavior or thoughtless action, the summer self would have immediately shared its discontent and asked for change. Not so now that the leaves have changed. Autumn sees both partners choosing to stifle complaints and file away grievances because anything else might spell a brawl.

Winter – The dreaded winter is the most common season in long-term relationships. Most of my parents’ friends (the ones still together after 30 or more years) live in a constant state of winter. If you ask them about it, their answers are often full of resignation. It’s as if their Narnian state came about through some magic or surprise attack and not deliberate steps.

You know it’s winter in a relationship when partners have no shame in revealing their dislike for each other. Spring’s quick banter turns to icy javelin-throwing and tears are shed alone without explanation.

Now here’s my intake on relationships.

What makes a relationship work? Relationships only work when two people place forth effort. The definition of a relationship is, “the state of being connected” but in my clear terms, that simply means, “a bond shared between two loved ones.” Whats the keyword? Good job! As seen bold & underlined, “shared” is the keyword.

{SN: For further information, please go click here to get a better understanding on the term “relationships”}  > ^.^ <

Anywho…

Some people arent meant to be in relationships. Why? Well because they tend to play games, lie, cheat, refer to physical or verbal violence, or their just plain ugly.

{SN: BUUUURRRRNNNNN!!! But ugly people deserve some love too, besides Im not all that cute to have any say :|}

Relationships are meant to be sacred.

{SN: Yeeahhhh right! o.O}

Yes, I do understand that teens use relationships as a way of getting to know someone or just to say you have a “boyfriend/girlfriend” as if that gives you Kudos.

{SN: Presenting Kudos Stats …. ME – 1,000,000,000,000 >.< YOU – 0o1 …}

Okay, that was a bit harsh but in all honesty people just dont care! They wear their gf/bf around for PDA & then throw them to the side at night. You may even try stuffing her into the suitcase to try to get rid of her……NAKED!

Treat your mate how you want to be treated & for the seasons isssh, dont follow that guideline. Make up your own!

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